strange, isn’t it? life is not turning out the way everyone thought it would be.
J told me the other day that i am not a romantic. that i don’t believe in forever, don’t think about getting married when i’m in a relationship, about having kids together and living life like an old couple in years to come. and yes i don’t, but that doesn’t make me unromantic. why think about the future (and so far ahead) when you have the present? why do you spend your days thinking about what’s going to happen and forgetting that if you don’t keep the person here, right here right now, all your daydreaming is going to go to the dogs? to me, that’s not a smart thing to do. and that’s not because i don’t believe in love, because i do. but it’s not all sweet smells and roses and walking down the aisle. to me the greatest fear of thinking so far ahead is that you will end up regretting it, when it is all gone. it seems at once presumptuous and pompous, to assume you’d (he’d) be the one. as if all of it were something you could take for granted, that lasted forever and forever.
and no, so i can’t do that. i don’t do that. at the end of the day i feel stupid, for wishful thinking. maybe it’s the painful voice of experience talking on my part (okay it is, but you don’t know everything, so don’t judge.). people change. sometimes forever is not an option.
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today we handed in our assignment. then, with liwong, kaiyong, denise and iris – ramen at robertson quay, dessert at ricciotti (half-price after 9) and pizza. 15% off with UOB card (no GST! gasp). stupid jokes, boggle, half-baked cantonese. i died laughing. it was a good night :)

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there was so much alcohol on friday. i mostly like anything with green tea. sitting at the playground, just like the year before, only so many things have changed.
outside on the kerb

at the playground – pardon the wonky jeans, and i dunno why i always wear this top in pictures

us stealing food (again)

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then emo-ing in the KTV on saturday night after a nice old school dinner, rugby finals at jon’s place. i was quite sad england didn’t win, but it was inevitable, it seems. and percy montgomery reminds me of lancelot.
dandelionwine 12:51 am on January 6, 2009 Permalink
there are things i cannot say, and that was why i was so quiet that night.
r 5:36 pm on January 6, 2009 Permalink
you were not as quiet as you remember, too :)
Caits 8:14 am on January 10, 2009 Permalink
You are a strong person, alrights!
xiaoqi 12:52 pm on January 10, 2009 Permalink
hello clarisse, when i saw this girl she immediately reminded me of you:
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v27/winterwinds/P1040198-1.jpg
i haven’t seen you in two years and more, but i think i can still remember how you look like..
dandelionwine 1:03 am on January 11, 2009 Permalink
memories, perspectives are queer things.
r 5:22 am on January 11, 2009 Permalink
caitlin: thank you :)
xq: why! i am neither as tall nor as skinny, but i like her style a lot!
pak: they are, indeed. i enjoyed the dinner, though :)
dandelionwine 1:46 am on January 12, 2009 Permalink
i want those photos!
xiaoqi 4:15 am on January 12, 2009 Permalink
it’s the face! :)
rachel 4:44 pm on January 13, 2009 Permalink
hey babe, that was beautiful. you’re a strong girl and you will conquer all, even the most nasty experiences this year has thrown at you. :)
love from me.
rachel 5:24 pm on January 13, 2009 Permalink
whoops, i mean last year. hahahaha. still living in 2008.
r 12:35 am on January 14, 2009 Permalink
pak: i’ll upload them eventually, when i get back to holland in a few days!
xq: it does, now that you mention it…
rach: the year will get better, i’m sure of it :) it’s always easier to be unhappy, than to be happy despite everything that’s happened. i am not the only one who needs to learn this lesson; all of us do, perhaps. :)
yanj 10:51 pm on January 16, 2009 Permalink
beautiful post risse, it was pure. and honest. love.
yanj 11:07 pm on January 16, 2009 Permalink
ok i dont know what i meant when i said pure.. but i hope *you know what i mean!
r 11:11 pm on January 16, 2009 Permalink
mmmm, yes i do :)